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第3話 校园生活终究不是一帆风顺。 2023 .6.17 土

你们有遇见过一个很烦人的同桌吗？

如果没有的话恭喜你。虽然有人说经历烦恼与困扰是人生不可或缺的一部分，也是所谓人生的必修课之一。但我觉得处理烦人同桌的这样的无意义课业应该是不用上的。

其实我自认为我也是一个令人厌烦的人，毕竟我说的好听叫健谈，说得不好听叫话痨，没有人会喜欢的吧？包括我自己。所以我在改变。好消息是我的努力颇有成效，但今天就不多说了。

那么，连我这样一个令人厌烦的人都感到难以忍受究竟有多离谱呢？

假设你和我一样是一名男生，而你的同桌是一位开朗到令人害怕的女生，而她讲话有时实在是想让人问一下她到底在想什么。这样的话或许你还会觉得没什么大不了的。

请允许我举一个例子。

如果你有一个正在交往的对象，且不论你是男还是女，你会天天找你的同桌，一位没有那么熟的异性，让他/她跟你的交往对象聊天吗？女生之间可能没什么，男生与男生之间如果比较熟的话好像也没什么但是还是不太好。你们都不会这样吧？如果是我我也不会（虽然我一直单身也没什么好说的。）

但她会。实话说，我无言以对。

如果我跟那个男生很熟也就算了，但事实并非如此。因此每次对话我都处于一种尴尬内疚加同情的复合情感之中。

而这只是开胃小菜........

你会嫌弃（明面上）交往对象并非以恶搞为目的并且能够让人感受到心意的可以说价值不菲的礼物吗？

她会........

还会跟我说，一脸嫌弃的那种......

你会因为异性同桌跟别的男生或者女生一起活动而发表相当离谱的令当事人难绷的言论吗？

她会.....不论是她在我们刚成为同桌，正在跟另一位男生交往时，还是现在分手之后.........说句极为冒犯的话，我若是那位男生，我连开始都不会开始......

所以，我很难受，经常。

最后，我希望你们少遇到这样的人，遇到也要谨慎。

Have you ever met a very annoying table mate?

Congratulations if not. Although some people say that experiencing troubles and troubles is an indispensable part of life, it is also one of the so-called compulsory lessons in life. But I think dealing with such meaningless coursework as annoying people at the same table should not be used.

In fact, I think I am also a boring person, after all, what I say is good and talkative, and what I say is bad is called talkative, no one will like it, right? Including myself. So I'm changing. The good news is that my efforts have been fruitful, but I won't say much today.

So how outrageous is it for even an annoying person like me to find unbearable?

Let's say you're a guy like me, and you're at your table with a frighteningly cheerful girl who sometimes really wants to get people to ask what she's thinking. In that case, you may still think that it is not a big deal.

Allow me to give an example.

If you have a current date, whether you are male or female, will you find your table mate, a person of the opposite sex who is not so familiar, every day, and ask him/her to chat with your partner? There may be nothing between girls, and it seems to be nothing if boys and boys are more familiar, but it is still not good. None of you are going to do that, are you? If it were me, I wouldn't be (although I've always been single and there's nothing to say. ）

But she will. To be honest, I was speechless.

If I knew the boy well, it would be fine, but it wasn't. So every conversation I was in a complex of embarrassment, guilt, and sympathy.

And this is just an appetizer........

Do you dislike (openly) valuable gifts from your partner? At the same time, this gift is full of heart, not for the purpose of spoofing

She will.............

Will also tell me, the kind of disgust ...

Do you make quite outrageous remarks that are embarrassing to the person because the opposite sex is at the same table with other boys or girls?

She will..... Whether she was at the same table when we were at the same table, dating another guy, or now after breaking up......... To put it bluntly, if I were that boy, I wouldn't even start...

So, I feel bad, often.

Finally, I hope that you will encounter fewer such people and be cautious when encountering them.

PS I got to say that there will be some mistakes made by translator so the best way to learn what I am writing is to find a guy that know Chinese. It is also reasonable and the best way to read my works .